Hey everyone!
I have been in hibernation this last week. For a stay home mum with one child I still feel I have minimal free time to myself. If Im not running errands, Im cleaning, paying bills, budgeting, meal planning, grocery shopping, kinder drop off, pick up, making lunches, dinners, exercising, constantly trying to keep it together… Honestly the list is never ending.
I think we are amazing creatures, we really are the foundation of our families, the house doesn't run without us, so each of you who is reading this… Give yourselves a pat on the back! I take my hat off to all mothers. Single mothers you amaze me with your strength, working mums constantly keeping the balance, stay home mums your incredible time and patience.
I would really like you to take time to read this post.
I follow a few bloggers, honestly I don't get time to read them all, but there is one in particular I always enjoy to read. "Imperfect homemaking"
I absolutely loved this blog piece so much, I wanted to share with you all.
To the mums out their who feel or felt burdened and weary…
For the Mum who feels they will have more joy, patience and energy today and doesn't.
This is a letter to the Mum who constantly trying to find the balance between, work and home, healthy and convenient, clean and clean enough
To the mum who's silently feels she's made a huge mistake and can't do the mummy thing. She's in over her head.
To the mum who feels like everyone is keeping it together except her. Who scrolls through her facebook feed feeling inadequate because everyone else seems to have a picture perfect life and you can hardly manage to keep up on the laundry.
To the mum who knows that her children are blessings but just doesn't feel it lately.
To the mum who fears she's failing at the thing she most wants to succeed at.
This is what I want you to know today…
Friend, know that you aren't alone. You so aren't alone. The more I tear down the walls between myself and the women I know, as we probe deeper into each others lives and bare our own souls and find community in our own brokenness, the more I learn that we are all weary and weak and struggling sometimes. You are not alone.
Motherhood is tough. You have no teachers manual. It is reasonable and rational to feel overwhelmed by the huge task set before you. Simplify. Prioritize. Choose to be present when it's easier to get lost into the computer screen. Be good to yourself. Ask heavenly father for strength and patience. Cry a little.
Please stop comparing. You and your children each possess a unique set of skills and challenges, joys, strengths and fears. You aren't your mum or your sister or your best friend or your favourite blogger. And nobody is asking you to be. So stop comparing and dig in to what it means to be fully you.
Survival mode is okay. You aren't planning any paper bag crafts or cooking a four star meal, you are just making it through until bed time. Maybe tomorrow will be easier, maybe it won't. Survival mode is okay.
It's okay to need help. Whether it's from friends or family or ordering take away or making an appointment with your family doctor. We weren't designed to be independent and perfect and alone. It's okay to need help.
And finally, let's commit to remember these days. I am so grateful for women in my life who remember what it was like to have little people at their feet needing them all day and are willing and able to stand in the gap and help me and encourage me through this season of motherhood. Commit to remember, so that one day you can hold a friend's baby while she showers alone.
